Adelai Valiant Suo
Born on April 23rd at 3:52 am
7 pounds 14 ounces
19 inches long
Yes, I had the idea for quite a while. It was a good one too. It would’ve been perfect. Can you see it? This long post about how siblings have to do the shuffle when new babes are born into the family. I was going to post about how Scarlet was doing with the new baby and what it’s like to witness the shuffle taking place. But as it turns out, Scarlet has been doing a big shuffle, but do you know who has done a bigger shuffle?? That’s right, Momma.
It never crossed my mind to prepare myself for a huge shift in our family life. We prepared Scarlet, oh how we prepared her. And I’m sure it’s been helpful that she was ready. She has adjusted very well, a few things we’ve noticed and had to figure out how to deal with, but over all she’s been great. But me? Let’s just say it’s been 2 weeks and 3 days since Adi was born and over half of that time was spent sitting and feeding him. Yep, I’m sure that God thought it would be hilarious to send down a barracuda baby to eat from morning to night. That’s been an adjustment. My dishes and laundry spent much of that time doing… well, nothing at all. Piling up, that’s about it. Not to mention in all of the ruckus we I totally lost the camera charger cord thing. So, this two weeks was spent with pretty much no pictures of our new little man. Which is the ultimate nightmare of a constant picture taker, like me. Joseph took no time off from work, so he’s doing a dance of his own trying to balance work, home and the cd project. I know it is the silliest thing for all you organized people out there, but honestly, in the 9 months I had to prepare myself for this change in my life I never thought about all the stuff that happens to a mother after a new life enters the family. Now, looking back, I remember when Scarlet was born there was a major shuffle that happened even with just Joseph and I. It wasn’t just the two of us any more. We were a family of three. Somehow that slipped my mind this time.
Incase you think this is super depressing and Tabitha is having a severely hard time managing, let me tell you, in the past few days (after I decided to stop having a severely hard time managing 🙂 ) I’ve made the decision to get myself in the middle of this currant and allow myself to do the shuffle. I usually try and fight those currants of change. But this time I’m deciding to relax in it and see where I end up. I’m finding a rhythm to my days with two babes. Becoming more creative about how we do things. It really is becoming a beautiful thing. Birthing the baby is just the first mountain of parenting to climb. Sometimes it seems like an ongoing goofy dance where I keep stepping on feet and then getting comfortable just in time for the dance to change.
So, my friendly advise to all the preggos out there… get ready to do the shuffle.