Adelai’s very first date!
Yes, we believe in prearranged marriage. (I don’t know that this sweet little girl’s daddy agrees. Shhh!!!)
Big Sister didn’t agree either.
She’s so proud to hold him and kiss him!
Ya gotta love friends that go on crazy car-packed mom adventures and push through all the “oh my gosh, I have KIDS” thoughts that hit every once in a while. Thank God for the girls I’ve got around me – going through this new mommyhood phase right beside me.
Oh sweet sunshine, are we glad to see you!
Adelai’s one month birthday was yesterday. He seems to be growing so much faster than Scarlet did. Or… maybe it’s that I don’t as much time to sit and oh and ah over him like I did with Scarlet. We have our sweet little moments in between all the toddler entertainment going on around the house.
Oh, yes. By the way, Miss Rayne has discovered her gift of making people laugh… just like her dad. She throws her arms behind her in a superman-like motion and declares “SuperGirl!!!!” as she takes off through the house. I believe that has been her way of coping with a new sibling and still getting attention. She’s even created her own theme song!
I have found a great little park with lots of space and places for Scarlet to explore and I’ve decided that is where you can find me this summer. It will be a perfect little place for us to get out and see the sunshine.
I’m breaking down and buying a new camera charger tomorrow. I’m going through serious photography with drawl. Many more pictures to come!
Adelai Valiant Suo
Born on April 23rd at 3:52 am
7 pounds 14 ounces
19 inches long
Yes, I had the idea for quite a while. It was a good one too. It would’ve been perfect. Can you see it? This long post about how siblings have to do the shuffle when new babes are born into the family. I was going to post about how Scarlet was doing with the new baby and what it’s like to witness the shuffle taking place. But as it turns out, Scarlet has been doing a big shuffle, but do you know who has done a bigger shuffle?? That’s right, Momma.
It never crossed my mind to prepare myself for a huge shift in our family life. We prepared Scarlet, oh how we prepared her. And I’m sure it’s been helpful that she was ready. She has adjusted very well, a few things we’ve noticed and had to figure out how to deal with, but over all she’s been great. But me? Let’s just say it’s been 2 weeks and 3 days since Adi was born and over half of that time was spent sitting and feeding him. Yep, I’m sure that God thought it would be hilarious to send down a barracuda baby to eat from morning to night. That’s been an adjustment. My dishes and laundry spent much of that time doing… well, nothing at all. Piling up, that’s about it. Not to mention in all of the ruckus we I totally lost the camera charger cord thing. So, this two weeks was spent with pretty much no pictures of our new little man. Which is the ultimate nightmare of a constant picture taker, like me. Joseph took no time off from work, so he’s doing a dance of his own trying to balance work, home and the cd project. I know it is the silliest thing for all you organized people out there, but honestly, in the 9 months I had to prepare myself for this change in my life I never thought about all the stuff that happens to a mother after a new life enters the family. Now, looking back, I remember when Scarlet was born there was a major shuffle that happened even with just Joseph and I. It wasn’t just the two of us any more. We were a family of three. Somehow that slipped my mind this time.
Incase you think this is super depressing and Tabitha is having a severely hard time managing, let me tell you, in the past few days (after I decided to stop having a severely hard time managing 🙂 ) I’ve made the decision to get myself in the middle of this currant and allow myself to do the shuffle. I usually try and fight those currants of change. But this time I’m deciding to relax in it and see where I end up. I’m finding a rhythm to my days with two babes. Becoming more creative about how we do things. It really is becoming a beautiful thing. Birthing the baby is just the first mountain of parenting to climb. Sometimes it seems like an ongoing goofy dance where I keep stepping on feet and then getting comfortable just in time for the dance to change.
So, my friendly advise to all the preggos out there… get ready to do the shuffle.
So, I read this article in one of the back issues of Martha Stewart Baby. (Super cool baby ideas -btw) It was about pregnant women that start “nesting” and never really stop. It said that a lot of women before getting pregnant never really cared about handmade items for their baby. But statistics of women becoming crafty during their pregnancy is astounding. This is super interesting to me. I have watched this happen so many times. I think it is the neatest part of the process of becoming a mother. It is the sweetest thing to a new mother to be gifted with handmade gifts. Creating something completely unique for your sweet baby, that is made straight from your heart, is one of the greatest thrills of motherhood. I remember crocheting Scarlet’s first blanket. I would sit in the rocking chair in her room and watch my hands move while wondering what she would look like, or how it would feel next to her skin. Then, when she was born, it was one of the first things she was wrapped in. It’s an amazing feeling to see your new babe wrapped in something “momma-made.”
Today has been lots of moving, unpacking, and organizing baby goodies. I am moving right into the nesting phase. But as I read this article and looked back over my time since becoming a mother, I have realized that “nesting” has never really stopped. I am constantly creating something, organizing another thing, making this better or that easier. Really that is how I live and it came with Scarlet, who made me a mother. Every handmade gift is cherished. She gets surrounded with as much “momma-made” stuff as possible. I have begun to work harder at being sure this baby gets the same wonderful treatment. 🙂 Today I bought a beautiful new (well – thrifted – new to me) blue quilt from Suzy’s. (Oh, someday there should be a whole post about Suzanna’s Antiques. Super amazing place.) It fits perfectly on Scarlet’s bed. It was exactly what was missing in her room. Believe it or not, it was on the”before the baby comes” list. Actually, many of the things on the list have more to do with her than the baby. All in all, by the time we have a new life there will also be a beautifully organized home. That is the plan. 🙂
So, for all your pregos out there (and there are quite a few), don’t be afraid to spend this sweet time (time that you’ll never get back – might I add) to learn something new. Create. Ask for handmade love for your baby. You might just be surprised how much it means to you when the time comes to adorn your most precious baby in “momma-made” goodies. Get to nesting!
This weekend was very relaxing. Scarlet had her first trip to the pool. We can tell already she will be a little fish! She LOOOVED it! She didn’t want to leave.
There is no easy way to say this on a blog. About two weeks ago we miscarried the baby. It was a long process. Joseph and I are both doing very well. We are very sad to lose this baby but we do realize that sometimes it is the bodies natural reaction to an unhealthy pregnancy. Many women have them and never knew they were pregnant. Knowing that has made this a little bit easier. Still, we were very excited about this new baby. We know that all things work together for the good of those that love God and are called according to His purpose. Therefore, we realize that we need to keep our eyes focused on the things God has asked us to do and leave the rest to Him. Please be praying for us. We are still trying to get back to our normal rhythm. We are both having strange reactions to all of the stuff going on. Pray for peace and wisdom that we will know how to deal with every situation that comes our way.
I believe that God puts beauty in everything. I believe that even when we cannot see, hear, or feel God Himself that we can always feel the evidence of Him. That evidence, His beauty, is you. I am so thankful to have people in my life you care. People who stop their lives to bring me comfort. If it was bringing a meal, showing up at the hospital and holding my pinkie, or even taking the time just to sit beside me and knit… thank you to all of you who had a part in supporting Joseph and I. You are the beauty of God on this earth. We are quickly becoming the only beauty left on this earth. But that is another sermon for another day….
Hope you all had a good weekend. This week holds trips to the pool, starting the process of hording food, knitting, and clothes for winter (yes, I am a lot like a bear… I hibernate), art projects, and getting back into the groove. Fun! Hope your week is filled with fun!
This is what every table in my house has looked like for the past week. We have all been feeling a little yucky. Scarlet is getting over croupiness. She had croup once before and we were total newbs and didn’t have any idea what to do. This time we immediately lathered her in Vicks, gave her tylenol, gave her tons of White Grape Juice, and made sure she had her humidifier. She slept through the night every single night. YAY for knowing how to handle something as a new parent! That really is exciting when there are so many other things that we constantly have to just get wisdom and find out what God wants us to do in every situation. That, I believe, is the hardest part of parenting. Before she was born, I thought I knew how I would handle every situation. But really, I had no idea. Things come up and we try our best to do what is best for our baby or we try to see what God has for her in the future and how we can be an asset to that. Anyways…(rambling again)
In the past week she has attached herself to a cute little brown dog. This sweet little dog has a very special spot in my heart. When I was going through a hard time, about 5 years and 6 months ago (to be exact) my Nana gave my this dog to hug when I was sad. Over the past few years he’s gotten a lot of hugs. My Nana is one of the most beautiful people I know. She is one of those people that lights up a room when she walks in. I have so many memories or stories of her making a day or a time special for different people. The first time Joseph saw this was this past Thanksgiving. We drove 8 hours to see some family and she and my sweet Shannon cooked thanksgiving dinner for us. She worked so hard to make that day special. Joseph just looked at me at one point and said, “Now I know what you mean.” She just makes you feel warm inside. Now, every morning I go into Scarlet’s room I see her curled up with that dog and it makes me miss my Nana. There is no better stuffed animal she could have picked.
This is a picture from Amanda Soule’s blog. She was the first person I saw using Sheepskin for her baby. Not to long after that I started realizing that a lot of mamas use sheepskin. I’ve been wanting one for Scarlet and just didn’t know where to go. Last week I found Nova Natural Toys and Crafts and there I found the perfect sheepskin comforter for babies. It will mostly be used for the new baby. But for right now Scarlet is really enjoying it. She lays on it and rubs it. It is the softest thing I think she’s ever felt.
I have a list of things I want for this baby that I didn’t know about for Scarlet. So many people look at me strange when they see the weird things that matter to me as a mother. I am one of those parents that people look at with their head tilted. But I love my life and the way my little family lives.
My heart has never been fuller.